06.05.T04-AP — Action Planning: Developing Healthy Personal Boundaries as I Wait
06.05.T04-AP — Action Planning: Developing Healthy Personal Boundaries as I Wait
Purpose
This tool helps you identify and implement practical actions that will strengthen your ability to establish, communicate, observe and protect healthy boundaries as you prepare for marriage.
Part A: My Growth Priorities
1. Which lesson from this chapter challenged me most?
2. Which lesson would have the greatest impact on my life if I put it into practice?
3. Which boundary-related area will I focus on strengthening during the next three months?
☐ Discussing boundaries openly and clearly
☐ Communicating boundaries early in a relationship
☐ Maintaining boundaries consistently in private and public settings
☐ Allowing principles rather than emotions to guide my decisions
☐ Respecting emotional, mental and physical space
☐ Responding positively when boundaries are discussed
☐ Taking responsibility when boundaries are crossed
☐ Avoiding situations that weaken healthy boundaries
☐ Other: __________________________
Why have I selected this area?
Part B: Defining and Communicating My Boundaries
4. What areas of my life, relationships or interactions require clearer boundaries?
5. Which boundary violations should I no longer ignore, excuse or minimise?
6. Which boundaries do I need to communicate more clearly to a prospective marriage partner?
7. What will I do differently to ensure that my boundaries are discussed early rather than after problems emerge?
Part C: Maintaining Healthy Boundaries
8. In which situations am I most likely to relax, compromise or abandon healthy boundaries?
9. What practical boundaries will I establish while interacting with a prospective marriage partner?
Time spent alone together
Private meetings
Communication and social media interactions
Emotional closeness and personal disclosures
Physical interactions
Other situations requiring clear boundaries
10. What practical steps will I take to maintain these boundaries consistently?
Part D: Strengthening the Inner Convictions that Support Boundaries
11. What spiritual habit would strengthen my ability to maintain healthy boundaries?
12. What practical step will I take to strengthen this habit?
13. How will stronger spiritual discipline help me remain guided by principles rather than emotions?
Part E: Accountability and Support
14. Who will help me remain accountable as I strengthen my boundaries?
15. Why is this person well suited to support me?
16. What specific role will this person play in helping me maintain healthy boundaries?
17. Who will I allow to challenge me if they notice me compromising my boundaries?
18. What permission am I giving this person?
Part F: Applying the Lessons from the Feature Stories
19. Which boundary-related lesson from Joseph and Mary's relationship do I need to apply in my own life?
20. Which of Daphne's mistakes am I most determined to avoid? Why?
21. Which of Victor's behaviours would concern me most if they appeared in my own life? Why?
22. Which boundary-related behaviour would strengthen my readiness for marriage if practised consistently?
Part G: My Personal Action Plan
| Action to Be Taken | Target Date |
|---|---|
My Commitment
Having reflected on the lessons from this chapter, I commit myself to establishing, communicating, observing and protecting healthy boundaries, and to developing the maturity, self-control and accountability required for a healthy and God-honouring marriage.
Signature: __________________________
Date: _______________________________
