06.04.T02-ES — Evaluation Scorecard: Assessing a Prospective Partner's Purity and Self-Control
06.04.T02-ES — Evaluation Scorecard: Assessing a Prospective Partner's Purity and Self-Control
Instructions
Reflect carefully on the prospective partner's conduct, habits, conversations, relationships, decisions and lifestyle. Rate each statement based on what you have personally observed rather than assumptions, promises or feelings.
| Assessment Area | Score (1–5) |
|---|---|
| The person demonstrates self-control in conversations, use of time and choice of environments. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| The person takes responsibility for personal feelings, actions and decisions. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| The person consistently places obedience to God above personal desires, emotions or comfort. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| The person avoids creating emotional closeness without clear commitment and direction. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| The person treats the body with honour, dignity and reverence. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| The person's history demonstrates sexual integrity, honesty and accountability. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| The person governs emotional and physical attraction with restraint and discipline. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| The person treats purity as a shared responsibility rather than leaving it to the other party. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
Total Score: ______ / 40
Interpreting Your Score
| Score Range | Interpretation |
|---|---|
| 33–40 | Strong evidence of purity, self-control and personal responsibility. Continue observing the person over time, but the signs are generally encouraging. |
| 25–32 | Several positive indicators are present, though some areas require further observation, discussion or clarification. |
| 17–24 | Important concerns exist. Proceed carefully and gather more evidence before making major relationship decisions. |
| 8–16 | Significant concerns regarding purity, self-control, honesty or personal discipline. Serious caution is advised. |
Part A: Looking Beyond Appearances
1. What evidence suggests that this person's private life matches his or her public image?
2. What concerns, if any, suggest a gap between the person's public image and private conduct?
3. How transparent and truthful is this person about personal struggles, weaknesses or past mistakes?
Part B: Assessing Purity and Self-Control
4. In what ways does this person demonstrate self-control in daily life?
5. How does this person respond when experiencing strong emotions, disappointment, attraction or temptation?
6. What evidence suggests that godliness influences this person's decisions and behaviour?
7. Does this person encourage emotional closeness responsibly, or create attachment without clear commitment?
8. What evidence suggests that this person treats purity as a shared responsibility?
Part C: Learning from Stephen, Ruth and Boaz
9. Does this person's conduct resemble the restraint demonstrated by Ruth and Boaz or the compromise demonstrated by Stephen? Explain.
10. Which behaviour, if left unchanged, could create problems in a future marriage?
11. Which behaviour gives you the greatest confidence in this person's readiness for marriage?
Part D: My Overall Assessment
12. What is this person's greatest strength in relation to purity and self-control?
13. What is your greatest concern in relation to purity and self-control?
14. Based on the evidence available, how would you describe this person's readiness for a God-honouring marriage?
15. What should your next step be?
☐ Continue observing
☐ Seek clarification
☐ Discuss concerns openly
☐ Seek wise counsel
☐ Proceed with caution
☐ Reconsider the relationship
