06.01.T02-ES — Evaluation Scorecard: Assessing a Prospective Partner's Spiritual Alignment
06.01.T02-ES — Evaluation Scorecard: Assessing a Prospective Partner's Spiritual Alignment
Purpose
This tool helps you evaluate whether a prospective partner is spiritually aligned with you and whether the person's life demonstrates submission to God, spiritual consistency and readiness for a spiritually grounded marriage. The assessment is based directly on the seven evaluation areas discussed in this chapter.
Instructions
Rate the person based on observable patterns of conduct, priorities, decisions and spiritual practices rather than verbal claims or occasional religious activities.
| Spiritual Alignment Indicator | Score (1–5) |
|---|---|
| The person submits to the same divine authority and foundational beliefs that I do. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| The person demonstrates a consistent personal relationship with God. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| The person's decisions are guided by God's Word. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| The person demonstrates commitment to spiritual and moral boundaries. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| The person's spiritual identity remains stable despite social pressure or personal advantage. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| The person willingly participates in prayer and spiritual practices. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| The person demonstrates openness to mentorship, correction and spiritual growth. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
Total Score: ______ / 35
Interpreting Your Score
| Score Range | Interpretation |
|---|---|
| 29–35 | Strong evidence of spiritual alignment and spiritual maturity. |
| 22–28 | Positive signs are evident, though some areas require further observation. |
| 15–21 | Significant questions remain regarding spiritual alignment. |
| 7–14 | Serious concerns exist regarding spiritual compatibility and spiritual direction. |
Part A: Foundational Spiritual Beliefs
1. What evidence suggests that the person recognises and submits to God's authority?
2. How does the person respond when biblical teaching conflicts with personal preferences?
3. What evidence suggests that spiritual convictions influence the person's conduct rather than remaining theoretical beliefs?
4. What concerns, if any, suggest that the person's spiritual beliefs are weak, inconsistent or merely cultural?
This section reflects the chapter's emphasis on shared foundational beliefs and submission to God.
Part B: Personal Relationship with God
5. What evidence suggests that the person has a genuine personal relationship with God?
6. How consistent is the person's commitment to prayer, worship, fellowship and engagement with God's Word?
7. Does the person's spiritual life appear stable regardless of mood, convenience or circumstances? Explain.
8. What concerns, if any, suggest inconsistency in the person's relationship with God?
This section reflects the chapter's emphasis on maintaining a consistent personal relationship with God.
Part C: Decisions Guided by God's Word
9. What evidence suggests that the person's decisions are guided by God's Word?
10. How does the person respond when obedience to God becomes costly, difficult or inconvenient?
11. What examples demonstrate that the person seeks God's direction before making important decisions?
12. What concerns, if any, suggest that personal ambition, convenience or self-interest take priority over God's guidance?
This section reflects the chapter's discussion of decisions being shaped by biblical conviction rather than convenience.
Part D: Spiritual Boundaries
13. What evidence suggests that the person's boundaries are shaped by reverence for God?
14. How consistently does the person honour spiritual and moral boundaries in both public and private settings?
15. What evidence suggests self-control, restraint and moral discipline?
16. What concerns, if any, suggest a tendency to compromise spiritual or moral boundaries?
This section reflects the chapter's discussion of spiritual alignment being expressed through boundaries and moral discipline.
Part E: Stability of Spiritual Identity
17. How does the person respond when spiritual convictions become unpopular, inconvenient or costly?
18. What evidence suggests that the person's spiritual identity remains stable despite social influences?
19. How does the person balance social acceptance, career ambitions and personal desires with obedience to God?
20. What concerns, if any, suggest that social pressure influences the person's spiritual priorities?
This section reflects the chapter's emphasis on spiritual consistency despite external influences.
Part F: Shared Spiritual Participation
21. How willing is the person to pray with others and participate in shared spiritual activities?
22. What evidence suggests that the person values seeking God together rather than only individually?
23. How seriously does the person approach shared spiritual practices such as prayer, fellowship, worship and Bible study?
24. What concerns, if any, suggest reluctance to participate in shared spiritual activities?
This section reflects the chapter's emphasis on shared prayer and spiritual practice.
Part G: Mentorship, Correction and Spiritual Growth
25. How does the person respond to spiritual correction, biblical counsel or accountability?
26. What evidence suggests humility, teachability and openness to growth?
27. Who appears to influence the person's spiritual growth and development?
28. What concerns, if any, suggest resistance to correction, accountability or spiritual guidance?
This section reflects the chapter's emphasis on teachability, accountability and spiritual growth.
Part H: My Overall Assessment
29. Which aspect of the person's spiritual life gives me the greatest confidence?
30. Which aspect of the person's spiritual life requires the closest attention?
31. Which aspect of spiritual alignment concerns me most?
32. Based on the evidence available, how would I describe the person's overall spiritual alignment?
☐ Very Strong
☐ Strong
☐ Moderate
☐ Weak
☐ Very Weak
Why?
33. What should my next step be?
☐ Continue observing
☐ Discuss spiritual matters more deeply
☐ Seek wise counsel
☐ Spend more time evaluating alignment
☐ Proceed cautiously
☐ Reconsider the relationship
