06.03.T03-SA — Self-Assessment: My Commitment
06.03.T03-SA — Self-Assessment: My Commitment
Purpose
This tool helps you assess your readiness for covenant commitment by examining your reliability, consistency, sense of responsibility, endurance, partnership orientation, spiritual anchoring and ability to honour commitments over time. The questions are based directly on the lessons presented in this chapter.
Instructions
Reflect honestly on your conduct, attitudes and patterns of behaviour. Circle the score that best reflects your current reality rather than your intentions or aspirations.
| Self-Assessment Statement | Score (1–5) |
|---|---|
| I treat commitment as a serious responsibility rather than merely a feeling or intention. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| My actions consistently support the commitments and promises I make. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I remain reliable even when fulfilling commitments becomes inconvenient. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I prioritise shared responsibility above personal preference when appropriate. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I remain present and engaged when relationships encounter difficulties. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| My commitment is anchored in spiritual convictions rather than changing emotions. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I respect other people's responsibilities, commitments and convictions. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I am preparing myself for the long-term responsibilities of marriage. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
Total Score: ______ / 40
Interpreting Your Score
| Score Range | Interpretation |
|---|---|
| 33–40 | Strong evidence of commitment, reliability and readiness for greater responsibility. |
| 25–32 | Positive signs are evident, though some aspects of commitment require strengthening. |
| 17–24 | Important weaknesses exist that could undermine future commitments if left unaddressed. |
| 8–16 | Significant concerns exist regarding commitment, reliability or readiness for marriage. |
Part A: Commitment as a Priority
1. Do my current choices suggest that I view commitment as a serious responsibility or merely as a desirable ideal?
2. What evidence from my current life supports my answer?
3. Which commitments currently occupy the highest priority in my life?
4. What does this reveal about my readiness for marital commitment?
Part B: Commitment Demonstrated Through Action
5. How consistently do I fulfil promises, obligations and responsibilities?
6. Which commitments in my life have I honoured faithfully over time?
7. Which commitments have I struggled to maintain? Why?
8. What does my track record reveal about my reliability and dependability?
Part C: Partnership versus Personal Preference
9. When responsibilities conflict with my preferences, which do I normally choose?
10. How willing am I to make sacrifices for a shared goal or responsibility?
11. What evidence suggests that I am developing a "we" mentality rather than a "me" mentality?
12. In what ways do I still place personal preferences above partnership and shared responsibility?
Part D: Commitment During Difficult Times
13. How do I normally respond when commitments become costly, inconvenient or demanding?
14. When facing disappointment or setbacks, am I more likely to persevere or withdraw?
15. What recent experience best reveals how I handle difficult commitments?
16. What does this experience reveal about my level of commitment?
Part E: Spiritually Anchored Commitment
17. To what extent is my commitment guided by conviction rather than changing emotions?
18. How does my relationship with God influence the commitments I make and maintain?
19. What evidence suggests that my commitment remains stable even when emotions fluctuate?
20. What evidence suggests that I rely too heavily on feelings when making or maintaining commitments?
Part F: Respecting Responsibilities and Commitments
21. How do I respond when a relationship competes with existing responsibilities and commitments?
22. Have I ever neglected important responsibilities because of a relationship or personal preference? What happened?
23. How well do I respect the responsibilities, commitments and convictions of other people?
24. What changes are needed to strengthen my respect for commitments, both mine and those of others?
Part G: Learning from the Feature Stories
25. Which lesson from Joy Nyabongo and her husband's experience do I most need to apply in my own life?
26. Which of Kenneth's attitudes or behaviours would be most damaging if they appeared in my own life?
27. What does Jacob's willingness to fulfil a fourteen-year commitment teach me about my own approach to commitment?
28. Which lesson from the feature stories do I most need to apply in order to strengthen my commitment?
Before I Move On
29. Complete the statement below.
The area of commitment that requires the greatest attention in my life is ________________________________________________.
30. Complete the statement below.
The commitment-related habit I most need to strengthen is ________________________________________________.
31. Complete the statement below.
The lesson from this chapter that I most need to apply is ________________________________________________.
32. Complete the statement below.
After studying this chapter, I now understand that commitment requires ________________________________________________.
