06.01.T03-SA — Self-Assessment: My Spiritual Alignment
06.01.T03-SA — Self-Assessment: My Spiritual Alignment
Purpose
This tool helps you assess the extent to which your life is spiritually aligned with God as you prepare for marriage. It focuses on the same areas highlighted throughout this chapter: spiritual authority, personal relationship with God, obedience to God's Word, spiritual boundaries, spiritual identity, spiritual participation, teachability and spiritual growth.
Instructions
Reflect honestly on your present spiritual condition, conduct, priorities and responses. Circle the score that best reflects your current reality.
| Self-Assessment Statement | Score (1–5) |
|---|---|
| God's authority governs the major decisions of my life. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I maintain a consistent personal relationship with God. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| My decisions are guided by God's Word rather than convenience or personal preference. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I consistently maintain spiritual and moral boundaries. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| My spiritual convictions remain stable despite social pressure. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I value shared prayer and spiritual participation with other believers. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I welcome correction, accountability and spiritual guidance. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| My conduct reflects the spiritual beliefs that I profess. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
Total Score: ______ / 40
Interpreting Your Score
| Score Range | Interpretation |
|---|---|
| 33–40 | Strong evidence of spiritual alignment and spiritual maturity. |
| 25–32 | Positive signs are evident, though some areas require strengthening. |
| 17–24 | Important gaps exist that could weaken spiritual alignment. |
| 8–16 | Significant concerns exist regarding spiritual alignment and readiness for marriage. |
Part A: Submission to God's Authority
1. To what extent does God's authority influence my decisions, priorities and conduct?
2. When God's instructions conflict with my personal preferences, how do I usually respond?
3. What recent decision best reveals who or what is truly governing my life?
4. In which area of my life do I find it most difficult to submit fully to God's authority?
This section reflects the chapter's emphasis on recognising and submitting to the same divine authority.
Part B: My Personal Relationship with God
5. How consistent is my personal prayer life?
6. How consistently do I engage with God's Word through reading, study and meditation?
7. Does my relationship with God remain strong when life becomes busy, difficult or distracting? Explain.
8. What evidence suggests that my relationship with God is growing stronger?
This section reflects the chapter's emphasis on maintaining a consistent personal relationship with God rather than serving Him according to convenience.
Part C: Decisions Guided by God's Word
9. How often do I seek God's guidance before making important decisions?
10. What recent decision clearly reflected obedience to God's Word?
11. What recent decision was influenced more by convenience, ambition or personal preference than by spiritual conviction?
12. What changes are needed to ensure that God's Word plays a greater role in my decision-making?
This section reflects the chapter's emphasis on allowing God's Word to govern decisions.
Part D: Spiritual and Moral Boundaries
13. How consistently do my spiritual convictions shape the boundaries I establish in my life?
14. What situations most commonly test my commitment to spiritual and moral boundaries?
15. How do I normally respond when temptation, emotional pressure or opportunity challenge my boundaries?
16. What changes would strengthen my commitment to spiritually aligned boundaries?
This section reflects the chapter's emphasis on boundaries as an expression of spiritual alignment.
Part E: Stability of Spiritual Identity
17. How stable are my spiritual convictions when faith becomes inconvenient, unpopular or costly?
18. Which social influences place the greatest pressure on my spiritual convictions?
19. Have I ever lowered spiritual standards in order to gain acceptance, approval or personal advantage? Explain.
20. What practical steps will help me remain spiritually aligned when external pressures increase?
This section reflects the chapter's emphasis on maintaining spiritual identity despite external influences.
Part F: Shared Spiritual Participation
21. How comfortable am I praying openly with other believers?
22. How actively do I participate in corporate worship, fellowship, Bible study and other shared spiritual activities?
23. Do I view spiritual growth as purely personal, or do I value growing spiritually alongside other believers? Explain.
24. What changes would strengthen my participation in shared spiritual activities?
This section reflects the chapter's emphasis on shared prayer and spiritual participation.
Part G: Mentorship, Correction and Spiritual Growth
25. How do I usually respond when biblical correction exposes an area that needs change?
26. Who currently helps me grow spiritually through guidance, mentorship, accountability or correction?
27. What evidence suggests that I am teachable and willing to grow spiritually?
28. What attitudes or behaviours could hinder my spiritual growth if left unaddressed?
This section reflects the chapter's emphasis on teachability, correction and spiritual growth.
