06.05.T03-SA — Self-Assessment: My Respect for Boundaries
06.05.T03-SA — Self-Assessment: My Respect for Boundaries
Purpose
This tool helps you assess your own ability to establish, communicate, observe and protect healthy boundaries as you prepare for marriage.
Instructions
Reflect honestly on your attitudes, decisions and behaviours. Circle the score that best describes you.
| Self-Assessment Statement | Score (1–5) |
|---|---|
| I am willing to discuss boundaries openly and respectfully. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I maintain healthy boundaries consistently in both private and public settings. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| My decisions are guided by principles rather than emotions, convenience or pressure. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I respect other people's emotional space. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I respect other people's mental space. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I respect other people's physical space. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I respond positively to correction and make necessary adjustments when concerns are raised. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I avoid using guilt, anger, withdrawal or emotional pressure to get my way. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I take ownership when I cross boundaries or make mistakes. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I avoid environments and situations that increase temptation or weaken self-control. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
Scoring Guide
| Score | Meaning |
|---|---|
| 1 | Very Poor |
| 2 | Poor |
| 3 | Fair |
| 4 | Good |
| 5 | Excellent |
Total Score: ______ / 50
Interpreting Your Score
| Score Range | Interpretation |
|---|---|
| 41–50 | Strong Evidence of Healthy Boundaries. You demonstrate maturity, self-control and respect for boundaries. Continue strengthening these qualities as you prepare for marriage. |
| 31–40 | Generally Healthy but Requires Further Growth. You demonstrate several positive qualities but some areas require greater consistency and attention. |
| 21–30 | Proceed with Caution. Important weaknesses exist that could affect your relationships and readiness for marriage if left unaddressed. |
| 10–20 | Significant Concerns Exist. Deliberate growth and accountability are needed to strengthen your boundaries and marriage readiness. |
Part A: Examining My Boundaries
1. Which area of boundary management represents my greatest strength?
2. Which area requires the greatest improvement?
3. How comfortable am I discussing boundaries with another person?
4. When have I been tempted to compromise my boundaries because of emotions, pressure or convenience?
Part B: Assessing My Marriage Readiness
5. Which qualities that were evident in Joseph and Mary are also evident in my life?
☐ Integrity
☐ Self-control
☐ Respect
☐ Accountability
☐ Patience
☐ Trustworthiness
☐ Spiritual maturity
☐ Wise judgement
☐ Commitment
☐ Other: __________________
Provide examples:
