06.02.14 The 8th Key for Evaluating Purpose, Direction and Vision in a Prospective Partner Does the Person Show Openness to Feedback and Correction?

8. Does the Person Show Openness to Feedback and Correction?

Observe how the prospective partner responds to feedback and correction. Does the person listen, reflect and adjust; or does she or he resist and dismiss the issue? Does the individual demonstrate a willingness to learn from others; or does she or he become defensive when concerns are raised? Is feedback acknowledged and acted upon; or is it ignored and repeated over time? Does the prospective partner seek input when making decisions; or does she or he rely solely on personal judgement? When corrected, does the person take responsibility and make adjustments; or does she or he shift blame and avoid accountability?

Priscilla and Aquila must have noticed how each of them was open to feedback and correction, given that their move from one level to another would have involved learning curves at a personal level and as a couple. For instance, working alongside Paul, they would have displayed readiness to receive instruction, feedback and correction in order to become effective ministers of God's Word, as displayed by how they handled Apollos (Acts 18:24–26; Romans 16:3–5). These examples reveal traits Priscilla and Aquila would have applied in other aspects of life, thereby strengthening their marriage and ministry.

In contrast, Lydia found Sebastian resistant to negative feedback and correction. Whenever the budding entrepreneur raised concerns about the man’s lack of planning, feasibility and direction, he would deflect or minimise the issue instead of taking steps to learn and improve. Sebastian's resistance limited the growth of their business and made giving constructive feedback such a challenge for Lydia.

Openness to feedback and correction reveals a teachable spirit, which is indispensable for personal and mutual growth; as well as clarity. A partner who humbly welcomes constructive comments fosters continuous improvement, which is vital for adapting and thriving together. Such a person is better prepared to responsibly contribute to a shared future.