07.04.T03-SA — Self-Assessment: My Nurturing Behaviour
07.04.T03-SA — Self-Assessment: My Nurturing Behaviour
Purpose
This tool helps you assess your ability to create emotional safety, recognise and respond to the needs of others, provide encouragement and support, remain emotionally available during difficult seasons and demonstrate the nurturing behaviour necessary for a healthy marriage relationship.
Instructions
Reflect honestly on your attitudes, responses and behaviours. Circle the score that best describes you.
| Self-Assessment Statement | Score (1–5) |
|---|---|
| I create an emotionally safe environment where other people can express themselves honestly. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I listen attentively and seek to understand another person's feelings, concerns and perspective. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I notice when another person is discouraged, distressed or emotionally burdened. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I provide encouragement, reassurance and support when people are facing challenges. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I remain emotionally available when people close to me are struggling. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I demonstrate patience when dealing with another person's weaknesses, mistakes or limitations. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I remain present and engaged during conflict rather than withdrawing emotionally. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I willingly provide care and support during periods of illness, hardship or disappointment. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I show concern for vulnerable, distressed or disadvantaged people. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| My actions consistently demonstrate care rather than merely expressing care verbally. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
Scoring Guide
| Score | Meaning |
|---|---|
| 1 | Very Poor |
| 2 | Poor |
| 3 | Fair |
| 4 | Good |
| 5 | Excellent |
Total Score: ______ / 50
Interpreting Your Score
| Score Range | Interpretation |
|---|---|
| 41–50 | Strong Evidence of Nurturing Behaviour. I demonstrate many of the qualities associated with a nurturing and emotionally supportive marriage partner. |
| 31–40 | Generally Nurturing but Requires Further Growth. I demonstrate several positive qualities, though some areas require greater consistency and attention. |
| 21–30 | Proceed with Caution. Certain attitudes or behaviours may limit my ability to provide the care, support and emotional safety required within marriage. |
| 10–20 | Significant Weaknesses Exist. Deliberate growth and personal development are needed to strengthen my nurturing behaviour. |
Part A: Examining My Nurturing Behaviour
1. Which of the five indicators of nurturing behaviour is most evident in my life?
☐ Creating an emotionally safe environment
☐ Acknowledging and considering other people's feelings and perspectives
☐ Demonstrating encouragement and support
☐ Remaining patient and emotionally available
☐ Providing care and remaining present during difficult seasons
Provide examples:
2. Which of the five indicators of nurturing behaviour requires the greatest improvement in my life?
3. What signs tell me that another person is emotionally distressed, discouraged or struggling?
4. How do I normally respond when people close to me are facing challenges, disappointments or personal difficulties?
5. How safe would other people feel discussing sensitive issues, fears, failures or weaknesses with me?
Part B: Learning from Joy Nyabongo's Marriage Experience
6. Which aspect of the care and support displayed in Joy Nyabongo's marriage is most evident in my own relationships?
7. How willing am I to inconvenience myself in order to support, encourage or care for another person?
8. How well do I support the growth, development and well-being of people who are important to me?
9. What evidence suggests that I create emotional safety for people to discuss mistakes, weaknesses and personal struggles openly?
Part C: Learning from Nancy's Example
10. Which of Nancy's attitudes or behaviours do I most need to guard against in my own life?
11. Describe a situation where I failed to notice or respond appropriately when another person was distressed, struggling or in need of support. What did I learn from that experience?
12. Describe a situation where I dismissed another person's concerns, interests or emotional needs because they did not seem important to me. What impact did that have on the other person or the relationship?
13. What does my response to vulnerable, distressed or disadvantaged people reveal about my nurturing nature?
Part D: Learning from Elizabeth and Zechariah
14. What can I learn from the way Elizabeth welcomed, reassured and emotionally supported Mary when she was facing uncertainty, misunderstanding and possible rejection?
15. What can I learn from Elizabeth's ability to create emotional safety for another person?
16. What can I learn from the patience, emotional availability and support that Elizabeth and Zechariah demonstrated towards one another during Zechariah's period of muteness?
17. Which quality demonstrated by Elizabeth or Zechariah do I most need to develop in my own life?
Part E: Assessing My Marriage Readiness
18. Which nurturing qualities are already evident in my life?
☐ Empathy
☐ Emotional availability
☐ Encouragement
☐ Patience
☐ Compassion
☐ Attentive listening
☐ Emotional safety
☐ Supportiveness
☐ Dependability
☐ Care during difficult seasons
☐ Other: ______________________
