07.00.BG.T02-SA — Baseline Self-Assessment: My Emotional Readiness for Marriage Purpose
BG.T02-SA — Baseline Self-Assessment: My Emotional Readiness for Marriage
Purpose
This tool helps me assess my current level of emotional readiness before beginning Emotional Guidelines for Choosing and Becoming Marriage Material. It establishes a baseline against which I can later measure growth as I complete the guide. The assessment focuses on the key themes explored throughout the guide: emotional intelligence, emotional maturity, understanding emotional needs and love languages, communication, conflict management and emotional stability.
Instructions
I will rate myself honestly based on my current conduct, attitudes and practices.
| Statement | Score (1–5) |
|---|---|
| I am aware of my emotional triggers and how they affect my behaviour. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I regulate my emotions before responding to difficult situations. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I listen to other people's concerns without becoming defensive. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I seek to understand how other people feel before responding. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I communicate my emotions clearly and respectfully. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I accept responsibility for my emotional responses. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I handle disagreements in a constructive manner. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I am willing to learn, grow and adjust when necessary. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
Total Score: ______ / 40
Part A: Emotional Intelligence
1. How well do I understand my emotions, triggers and emotional responses?
☐ Very Well
☐ Well
☐ Somewhat Well
☐ Poorly
☐ Very Poorly
Why?
2. Which aspect of emotional intelligence currently gives me the greatest confidence?
3. Which aspect of emotional intelligence currently concerns me most?
Part B: Emotional Maturity
4. How would I describe my current level of emotional maturity?
☐ Very Strong
☐ Strong
☐ Moderate
☐ Weak
☐ Very Weak
Why?
5. How do I normally respond when I am disappointed, frustrated or hurt?
6. Which aspect of emotional maturity requires the greatest attention?
Part C: Emotional Needs and Love Languages
7. How well do I understand my own emotional needs?
☐ Very Well
☐ Well
☐ Somewhat Well
☐ Poorly
☐ Very Poorly
Why?
8. How well do I understand the different ways people feel loved, valued and appreciated?
☐ Very Well
☐ Well
☐ Somewhat Well
☐ Poorly
☐ Very Poorly
Why?
9. Which aspect of understanding emotional needs and love languages requires the greatest attention?
Part D: Communication and Conflict Management
10. How would I describe my communication during emotionally sensitive situations?
☐ Very Effective
☐ Effective
☐ Moderately Effective
☐ Ineffective
☐ Very Ineffective
Why?
11. How do I normally respond when another person disagrees with me?
12. Which aspect of communication or conflict management requires the greatest attention?
Part E: Emotional Stability
13. How emotionally stable am I when facing pressure, disappointment or uncertainty?
☐ Very Stable
☐ Stable
☐ Moderately Stable
☐ Unstable
☐ Very Unstable
Why?
14. What situations place the greatest pressure on my emotional stability?
15. Which aspect of emotional stability requires the greatest attention?
Baseline Summary
16. Which of the five areas do I currently regard as my strongest?
☐ Emotional Intelligence
☐ Emotional Maturity
☐ Understanding Emotional Needs and Love Languages
☐ Communication and Conflict Management
☐ Emotional Stability
Why?
17. Which of the five areas currently requires the greatest attention?
☐ Emotional Intelligence
☐ Emotional Maturity
☐ Understanding Emotional Needs and Love Languages
☐ Communication and Conflict Management
☐ Emotional Stability
Why?
18. Which area am I most interested in strengthening through this guide?
19. What do I hope will be different about my relationships after completing this guide?
20. Complete the statement below.
The area of emotional readiness that I want to strengthen through this guide is ____________________________________________________________.
