EG.T02-SA — End-of-Guide Self-Assessment: My Relational and Social Readiness for Marriage
EG.T02-SA — End-of-Guide Self-Assessment: My Relational and Social Readiness for Marriage
Purpose
This tool helps me assess my current level of relational and social readiness after completing Relational and Social Guidelines for Choosing and Becoming Marriage Material. It enables me to evaluate my growth in respecting individuality, managing conflict, communicating effectively, managing expectations, building healthy relationships and maintaining healthy boundaries. It also helps me identify areas that require continued attention as I prepare for a healthy and enduring marriage relationship.
Instructions
I will rate myself honestly based on my current attitudes, behaviours and relationship practices.
| Statement | Score (1–5) |
|---|---|
| I respect the individuality of people whose personalities, interests and perspectives differ from mine. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I can disagree with someone without becoming disrespectful or hostile. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I listen carefully before responding to concerns or criticism. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I communicate my expectations clearly and respectfully. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I address conflict constructively rather than avoiding it unnecessarily. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I remain respectful during disagreements and conflict. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I take responsibility for my contribution to relationship challenges. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I establish and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
Total Score: ______ / 40
Part A: Respecting Individuality and Differences
1. How would you rate your ability to respect differences in personality, opinions, interests and approaches?
☐ Very Strong
☐ Strong
☐ Moderate
☐ Weak
☐ Very Weak
Why?
2. Which aspect of respecting individuality and differences has improved most during your study of this Guide?
☐ Respecting different opinions
☐ Respecting different personalities
☐ Respecting different interests
☐ Respecting different approaches
☐ Accepting disagreement
☐ Avoiding controlling behaviour
Why?
3. Which aspect of respecting individuality and differences still requires the greatest attention?
Part B: Conflict Management
4. How would you rate your current conflict-management skills?
☐ Very Strong
☐ Strong
☐ Moderate
☐ Weak
☐ Very Weak
Why?
5. Compared to when you began this Guide, how much growth have you experienced in your ability to handle disagreements and conflict?
☐ Very Significant Growth
☐ Significant Growth
☐ Moderate Growth
☐ Limited Growth
☐ Very Little Growth
Why?
6. Which conflict-management habit still requires the greatest attention?
Part C: Managing Expectations
7. How would you rate your ability to identify and communicate expectations in relationships?
☐ Very Strong
☐ Strong
☐ Moderate
☐ Weak
☐ Very Weak
Why?
8. What evidence convinces you that your ability to manage expectations has improved?
9. Which aspect of managing expectations still requires the greatest attention?
Part D: Communication
10. How would you rate your communication skills in relationships?
☐ Very Strong
☐ Strong
☐ Moderate
☐ Weak
☐ Very Weak
Why?
11. Compared to when you began this Guide, how much growth have you experienced in your communication skills?
☐ Very Significant Growth
☐ Significant Growth
☐ Moderate Growth
☐ Limited Growth
☐ Very Little Growth
Why?
12. Which aspect of communication still requires the greatest attention?
Part E: Building Healthy Relationships
13. How would you rate your ability to build and sustain healthy relationships?
☐ Very Strong
☐ Strong
☐ Moderate
☐ Weak
☐ Very Weak
Why?
14. What relationship strength have you strengthened most through this Guide?
15. Which relationship-building skill still requires the greatest attention?
Part F: Healthy Boundaries
16. How comfortable are you establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries?
☐ Very Comfortable
☐ Comfortable
☐ Somewhat Comfortable
☐ Uncomfortable
☐ Very Uncomfortable
Why?
17. What important lesson did you learn about boundaries through this Guide?
18. Which boundary-related issue still requires the greatest attention?
Part G: Evaluating My Growth
19. Compared to when you began this Guide, how much growth have you experienced in your relational and social readiness for marriage?
☐ Very Significant Growth
☐ Significant Growth
☐ Moderate Growth
☐ Limited Growth
☐ Very Little Growth
Why?
20. Which area has experienced the greatest growth?
☐ Respecting Individuality and Differences
☐ Conflict Management
☐ Managing Expectations
☐ Communication
☐ Building Healthy Relationships
☐ Maintaining Healthy Boundaries
Why?
21. Which area still requires the greatest attention?
☐ Respecting Individuality and Differences
☐ Conflict Management
☐ Managing Expectations
☐ Communication
☐ Building Healthy Relationships
☐ Maintaining Healthy Boundaries
Why?
22. What relational strength have you discovered or strengthened through this Guide?
23. What relational weakness, limitation or vulnerability have you become more aware of through this Guide?
End-of-Guide Summary
24. Which area of relational and social readiness do you now regard as your strongest?
☐ Respecting Individuality and Differences
☐ Conflict Management
☐ Managing Expectations
☐ Communication
☐ Building Healthy Relationships
☐ Maintaining Healthy Boundaries
Why?
25. Which area of relational and social readiness requires your greatest attention going forward?
☐ Respecting Individuality and Differences
☐ Conflict Management
☐ Managing Expectations
☐ Communication
☐ Building Healthy Relationships
☐ Maintaining Healthy Boundaries
Why?
26. What evidence convinces you that growth has taken place through this Guide?
27. What lesson from this Guide has influenced you most strongly?
28. Complete the statement below.
The area of relational and social readiness in which I have grown most is ____________________________________________________________.
29. Complete the statement below.
The area of relational and social readiness that still requires the greatest attention is ____________________________________________________________.
30. Complete the statement below.
The relationship quality I am most committed to strengthening is ____________________________________________________________.
31. Complete the statement below.
The most significant change that has taken place in my relationships through this Guide is ____________________________________________________________.
32. Complete the statement below.
The most important lesson I am taking away from this Guide is ____________________________________________________________.
33. Complete the statement below.
As I conclude this Guide, I would rate my overall relational and social readiness for marriage as ____________________________________________________________..
