09.01.01 Introducing Individuality and Respecting Differences

Introducing Individuality and Respecting Differences

Every relationship brings together two distinct individuals, each shaped by unique backgrounds, behavioural tendencies, perspectives and life experiences. These differences are part of what makes partnering with people meaningful and sustainable. While ‘individuality’ is the God-given distinctiveness that makes each person who she or he is, ‘respecting differences’ is the ability to honour that distinctiveness without threatening, controlling or suppressing the person. A healthy relationship does not require that two people become ‘identical’ but that they build unity while their unique identities remain intact.

In this chapter, I will highlight how individuality and respect for differences works in our marriage. Drawing from the fictitious story of Judith and Benjamin, alongside the biblical account of Priscilla and Aquila, we will share insights on evaluating a prospective partner’s respect for individuality and personal indifferences; and how to develop that kind of respect as you wait.