09.02.12 The 6th Key for Evaluating a Prospective Partner's Conflict Management Skills

6. Is the Person Committed to Transparent Communication and Resolution?

Observe whether the prospective partner communicates openly and directly when facing a conflict. Does the person address issues with clarity and honesty; or does she or he avoid discussion, speaking vaguely or leaving matters unresolved?

Sarah must have observed Abraham’s pattern of transparency during interactions involving the handling of conflict. For instance, in the dispute with Lot, at one time and Abimelech at another as already discussed, Abraham had initiated dialogue between the two conflicting parties, rather than allowing resentment to grow (Genesis 13:8–9). The day he was confronted by Abimelech, Abraham was transparent explained had laid the truth on the table instead of remaining hiding the truth any longer, regarding the relationship between him and Sarah (Genesis 20:9).

Abraham must have recognised Sarah’s willingness to discuss difficult matters rather than suppressing them. In the conflict between her and Hagar, Sarah had opened up about her distress rather than concealing the issue (Genesis 16:5–6).

Elaine consistently avoided communicating transparently when facing a conflict. After the laptop was stolen, she called Ivan, saying, “In meetings. We talk later,” but offered no updates on her plans for finding a replacement. She ignored Ivan’s follow-up calls and her final message, “Hope it went well. Busy,” was vague and dismissive, showing a lack of commitment to resolving the issue.

Committing to transparent communication is essential for the effective management of conflicts. A partner who is open, respectful and honest, even during difficult times, shows commitment to resolving disagreements. Clarity rather than vagueness or avoidance contributes greatly to building trust and mutual understanding in your relationship.