BG.T02-SA — Baseline Self-Assessment: My Relational and Social Readiness for Marriage
BG.T02-SA — Baseline Self-Assessment: My Relational and Social Readiness for Marriage
Purpose
This tool helps me assess my current level of relational and social readiness before beginning Relational and Social Guidelines for Choosing and Becoming Marriage Material. It establishes a baseline against which I can later evaluate my growth as I complete the Guide. The assessment focuses on how I relate with other people, respect individuality, manage conflict, communicate expectations, maintain healthy relationships and navigate social interactions. The Guide emphasises that healthy relationships are strengthened when individuality is respected, differences are valued and relationships are handled constructively.
Instructions
I will rate myself honestly based on my current attitudes, behaviours and relationship practices.
| Statement | Score (1–5) |
|---|---|
| I respect the individuality of people whose personalities, interests and perspectives differ from mine. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I can disagree with someone without becoming disrespectful or hostile. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I listen carefully before responding to concerns or criticism. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I communicate my expectations clearly rather than assuming people will automatically understand them. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I address conflict rather than avoiding it unnecessarily. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I remain respectful even during disagreements. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I take responsibility for my contribution to relationship problems. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I maintain healthy and balanced relationships with other people. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
Total Score: ______ / 40
Part A: Respecting Individuality and Differences
1. How would you rate your ability to respect differences in personality, opinions, interests and approaches?
☐ Very Strong
☐ Strong
☐ Moderate
☐ Weak
☐ Very Weak
Why?
2. How comfortable are you when another person disagrees with you?
☐ Very Comfortable
☐ Comfortable
☐ Somewhat Comfortable
☐ Uncomfortable
☐ Very Uncomfortable
Why?
3. Which aspect of respecting individuality and differences currently requires the greatest attention?
Part B: Conflict Management
4. How would you rate your current conflict-management skills?
☐ Very Strong
☐ Strong
☐ Moderate
☐ Weak
☐ Very Weak
Why?
5. How do you normally respond when you feel hurt, criticised or misunderstood?
6. Which conflict-management habit currently requires the greatest attention?
Part C: Managing Expectations
7. How aware are you of your expectations of other people?
☐ Very Aware
☐ Aware
☐ Somewhat Aware
☐ Slightly Aware
☐ Not Aware
Why?
8. How comfortable are you discussing expectations openly?
☐ Very Comfortable
☐ Comfortable
☐ Somewhat Comfortable
☐ Uncomfortable
☐ Very Uncomfortable
Why?
9. Which aspect of managing expectations currently requires the greatest attention?
Part D: Communication
10. How would you rate your communication skills in relationships?
☐ Very Strong
☐ Strong
☐ Moderate
☐ Weak
☐ Very Weak
Why?
11. How effectively do you listen to other people's concerns before responding?
☐ Very Effectively
☐ Effectively
☐ Moderately Effectively
☐ Ineffectively
☐ Very Ineffectively
Why?
12. Which aspect of communication currently requires the greatest attention?
Part E: Building Healthy Relationships
13. How would you rate your ability to build and sustain healthy relationships?
☐ Very Strong
☐ Strong
☐ Moderate
☐ Weak
☐ Very Weak
Why?
14. What relationship strength do you believe will benefit your future marriage most?
15. What relationship weakness concerns you most as you think about marriage?
Part F: Boundaries and Relational Balance
16. How comfortable are you setting healthy boundaries in relationships?
☐ Very Comfortable
☐ Comfortable
☐ Somewhat Comfortable
☐ Uncomfortable
☐ Very Uncomfortable
Why?
17. How comfortable are you respecting another person's boundaries?
☐ Very Comfortable
☐ Comfortable
☐ Somewhat Comfortable
☐ Uncomfortable
☐ Very Uncomfortable
Why?
18. Which boundary-related issue currently requires the greatest attention?
Part G: My Current Position
19. Which of the following areas do you currently regard as your strongest?
☐ Respecting Individuality and Differences
☐ Conflict Management
☐ Managing Expectations
☐ Communication
☐ Building Healthy Relationships
☐ Maintaining Healthy Boundaries
Why?
20. Which of the following areas currently requires the greatest attention?
☐ Respecting Individuality and Differences
☐ Conflict Management
☐ Managing Expectations
☐ Communication
☐ Building Healthy Relationships
☐ Maintaining Healthy Boundaries
Why?
21. Which area are you most interested in strengthening through this Guide?
Baseline Summary
22. What relational strength do you believe will benefit your future marriage most?
23. What relational weakness concerns you most as you think about marriage?
24. What relationship habit would you most like to strengthen?
25. What relationship habit would you most like to change?
26. Complete the statement below.
The strongest aspect of my relational and social readiness for marriage is ____________________________________________________________.
27. Complete the statement below.
The aspect of my relational and social readiness for marriage that requires the greatest attention is ____________________________________________________________.
28. Complete the statement below.
The relationship skill I most need to strengthen is ____________________________________________________________.
29. Complete the statement below.
The most important lesson I hope to gain from this Guide is ____________________________________________________________.
30. Complete the statement below.
At this point in my life, I would rate my overall relational and social readiness for marriage as ____________________________________________________________.
