EG.T01-PRR — End-of-Guide Reflection: My Growth in Mental Readiness for Marriage

Purpose

This reflection tool helps you evaluate what you have learned through Mental Guidelines for Choosing and Becoming Marriage Material. It provides an opportunity to reflect on how your thinking, judgement, decision-making, openness to learning, handling of family and cultural influences and overall mental readiness for marriage have developed through the lessons in this Guide.

There are no right or wrong answers. The purpose is to help you identify the growth that has taken place, the lessons that have influenced you most and the areas that still require attention as you continue preparing for a healthy marriage relationship.

Part A: My Most Important Discoveries

1. What is the most important lesson you learned from this Guide about mental readiness for marriage?

2. Which chapter influenced you most strongly?

☐ Intellectual Maturity

☐ Growth Mindset

☐ Cultural and Family Influences

☐ Other: ______________________

Why?

3. Which lesson challenged your previous beliefs, attitudes or assumptions most strongly?

4. Which lesson do you believe will have the greatest impact on your future marriage relationship?

Part B: Reflecting on Intellectual Maturity

5. What did you learn about intellectual maturity that you did not fully appreciate before reading this Guide?

6. What have you discovered about your approach to thinking, reasoning and decision-making?

7. Which aspect of intellectual maturity has experienced the greatest growth?

☐ Reflecting before responding

☐ Asking thoughtful questions

☐ Evaluating facts objectively

☐ Learning from experience

☐ Seeking wise counsel

☐ Sound judgement

Why?

8. Which aspect of intellectual maturity still requires the greatest attention?

Part C: Reflecting on a Growth Mindset

9. What did you learn about the importance of a growth mindset in marriage?

10. In what ways has your understanding of personal growth changed?

11. What have you discovered about your willingness to learn, change and improve?

12. Which aspect of your growth mindset still requires the greatest attention?

Part D: Reflecting on Family and Cultural Influences

13. What did you learn about the influence of family background on marriage relationships?

14. What did you learn about the influence of culture on marriage relationships?

15. What family influence became clearer to you through this Guide?

16. What cultural influence became clearer to you through this Guide?

17. How has this Guide changed the way you intend to handle family and cultural influences in your future marriage relationship?

Part E: Reflecting on Decision-Making and Judgement

18. What lessons from this Guide will most influence the way you make important decisions?

19. What have you learned about your current decision-making habits?

20. Which decision-making habit would you most like to strengthen?

21. Which decision-making habit would you most like to reduce or eliminate?

Part F: Evaluating My Growth

22. Which area has experienced the greatest growth during your study of this Guide?

☐ Intellectual Maturity

☐ Growth Mindset

☐ Learning and Development

☐ Decision-Making and Judgement

☐ Handling Family Influences

☐ Handling Cultural Influences

Why?

23. Which area still requires the greatest attention?

☐ Intellectual Maturity

☐ Growth Mindset

☐ Learning and Development

☐ Decision-Making and Judgement

☐ Handling Family Influences

☐ Handling Cultural Influences

Why?

24. What personal strength have you discovered or strengthened through this Guide?

25. What weakness, limitation or vulnerability have you become more aware of through this Guide?

Part G: Looking Ahead

26. Which lesson from this Guide are you most determined to apply in your life?

27. How do you expect your relationships to improve if you consistently apply the lessons from this Guide?

28. What would you like a future spouse to experience as a result of your growth in mental readiness?

29. Which mental quality would you most like to be known for in the years ahead?

30. Which mental quality do you believe is most important for a healthy and enduring marriage relationship?

End-of-Guide Reflection

31. Complete the statement below.

The most important lesson I am taking away from this Guide is ____________________________________________________________.

32. Complete the statement below.

The greatest change in my thinking about marriage readiness is ____________________________________________________________.

33. Complete the statement below.

The aspect of my mental readiness that still requires the greatest attention is ____________________________________________________________.

34. Complete the statement below.

The mental quality I am most committed to strengthening is ____________________________________________________________.

35. Complete the statement below.

The clearest sign of growth that has taken place in my life through this Guide is ____________________________________________________________.

36. Complete the statement below.

The most important contribution this Guide has made to my preparation for marriage is ____________________________________________________________.

37. Complete the statement below.

As I conclude this Guide, I commit myself to ____________________________________________________________.