08.01.12 The 6th Key for Evaluating a Prospective Partner's Intellectual Maturity

6. Are Feelings Tested Against Facts and Truth?

Observe how the prospective partner forms conclusions and makes decisions. Does the person weigh feelings against facts, evidence and reliable information before acting? Does the individual allow what can be verified to guide interpretation; or does she or he rely mainly on impressions, saying, “I feel this is right,” without examining whether it matches what can actually be confirmed?

Aquila and Priscilla must have recognised how each of them would test his or her feelings against facts or the truth of God’s Word. As already mentioned, Apollos could have been impressive, eloquent, confident and persuasive as a preacher. But they did not allow their feelings to sway them from the truth of God’s Word. Rather than responding to They must have looked beyond the superficial appearance and tested whatever the preacher was saying with what God had to say. Apollos’ delivery, confidence, outward impression, enthusiasm or persuasive speech did not replace careful examination of what was being taught. The preacher may have sounded sounded convincing, but the couple went ahead and examined the matter carefully, correcting the explanation where it was incomplete (Acts 18:26).

Jonathan relied heavily on confidence and public impression rather than verified information. His updates “felt right” to him even when supporting evidence did not exist. His reliance on impressions instead of confirmed facts helped Tabitha recognise the danger of decisions based on feeling alone, which eventually contributed to the scandal.

Feelings are important, but they must be examined alongside facts and sound judgement. An intellectually mature partner recognises that impressions may begin a conversation, but responsible decisions require careful examination of evidence and reliable information.