01.08.Tool 2 : Self-Assessment
01.08.EG.T02-EGA — End-of-Guide Self-Assessment
Where Am I Now in My Forgiveness Journey?
Throughout this Guide, you have examined how unforgiveness develops, how it can affect your life, how it can be prevented, how to forgive offenders and how your own behaviour can make it easier or more difficult for others to forgive you.
This End-of-Guide Self-Assessment invites you to examine how the principles explored throughout the Guide are reflected in the way you currently respond to offences.
Answer according to what currently describes you, rather than what you believe should describe you.
How to Complete the Assessment
For each statement, select the response that best describes you.
1 — Never | 2 — Rarely | 3 — Sometimes | 4 — Often | 5 — Very Often
1. I recognise when a past offence is still influencing my thoughts, feelings or behaviour.
1 2 3 4 5
2. I recognise when my words or reactions towards an offender reveal unresolved resentment.
1 2 3 4 5
3. I consider how holding on to an offence may be affecting different areas of my life.
1 2 3 4 5
4. I recognise when an unresolved offence is affecting my relationship with the offender or with other people.
1 2 3 4 5
5. I address resentment when I recognise that it is beginning to develop within me.
1 2 3 4 5
6. I avoid repeatedly dwelling on what someone has done to me.
1 2 3 4 5
7. I deal with offences before resentment towards the offender becomes firmly established.
1 2 3 4 5
8. I make the decision to forgive without waiting for the offender to apologise.
1 2 3 4 5
9. I maintain my decision to forgive when negative feelings towards the offender resurface.
1 2 3 4 5
10. I consider an offender's circumstances or perspective when reflecting on an offence.
1 2 3 4 5
11. I avoid repeatedly bringing up offences that I have already decided to forgive.
1 2 3 4 5
12. When someone offends me again, I deal with the current offence without adding previous offences to it.
1 2 3 4 5
13. I avoid allowing one offence to determine my overall view of the offender.
1 2 3 4 5
14. I distinguish between forgiving an offender and restoring the relationship to what it was before the offence.
1 2 3 4 5
15. I consider whether boundaries or precautions are necessary when dealing with someone I have forgiven.
1 2 3 4 5
16. I acknowledge when something I have done has offended another person.
1 2 3 4 5
17. I apologise when I recognise that I have offended someone.
1 2 3 4 5
18. I listen without becoming defensive when someone tells me that I have offended him or her.
1 2 3 4 5
19. When I apologise, I make an effort not to repeat the same behaviour that offended that person.
1 2 3 4 5
20. I avoid using excuses to minimise something I did that offended another person.
1 2 3 4 5
21. I avoid treating someone less favourably as a response to that person's complaint about something I did.
1 2 3 4 5
22. I extend to other people the treatment that I expect from them when I have been offended.
1 2 3 4 5
Your End-of-Guide Score
Add your responses to Statements 1–22.
Your Score: ______ / 110
Understanding Your Score
22–43 — Considerable Growth Is Needed
Several of the practices explored in this Guide are not yet consistently evident in the way you respond to offences.
Pay particular attention to the statements on which you scored lowest. These can identify areas that require further attention as you continue your forgiveness journey.
44–65 — Some Positive Practices Are Developing
Some of the practices explored in this Guide are evident in the way you respond to offences while others are less consistently applied.
Your lower-rated statements can help you identify areas in which further growth is needed.
66–87 — Many Positive Practices Are Evident
Many of the practices explored in this Guide are evident in the way you respond to offences.
Review your lower-rated statements carefully. They may identify particular practices or circumstances that still require greater attention.
88–110 — Positive Practices Are Strongly Evident
Many of the practices explored in this Guide are strongly evident in the way you respond to offences.
Individual lower ratings remain important. They may identify particular practices that you need to apply more consistently.
Taking a Closer Look
1. Which three statements received your lowest ratings?
1. ______________________________________________________
2. ______________________________________________________
3. ______________________________________________________
2. What do these ratings indicate about the way you currently respond to offences?
3. Which three statements received your highest ratings?
1. ______________________________________________________
2. ______________________________________________________
3. ______________________________________________________
4. What do these ratings indicate about the practices you already apply consistently?
5. Were any of your ratings different from what you expected?
☐ Yes
☐ No
If yes, which ones? Elaborate.
6. In reference to the practices identified through this assessment, which one would you like to apply more consistently? Why?