01.02.Tool 1 : Reflection Scorecard
01.02.T01-RS — Reflection Scorecard: Lessons from Birungi's Story
Reflecting on Birungi's Story
This Reflection Scorecard invites you to reflect on Birungi's experience, the lessons you have drawn from her story and how those lessons relate to your own experiences and those of people in your space.
Part A: Understanding Birungi's Experience
1. What had Lutalo done to Birungi and why had his return to her workplace affected her so deeply?
2. What does Birungi's reaction to Lutalo's return reveal about the extent to which the earlier offence was still influencing her?
3. What changes did you notice in Birungi during the weeks following Lutalo's return?
4. What does Birungi's deteriorating physical condition reveal about the effect the situation was having on her?
5. What did Birungi's statements about Lutalo during lunch with her friend reveal about her feelings towards him?
6. What contradiction do you see between the way Birungi spoke about Lutalo and her insistence that she had nothing against him?
7. Why was it important for Birungi to acknowledge what she was experiencing before she could begin to deal with it?
Part B: Reflecting on the Lessons from Birungi's Story
Having read Birungi's story, to what extent do you agree with the following conclusions?
1 — Strongly Disagree | 2 — Disagree | 3 — Not Sure | 4 — Agree | 5 — Strongly Agree
1. An offence can continue to influence a person long after the original incident has passed.
1 2 3 4 5
2. Encountering an offender again can reveal feelings that a person may not have fully recognised.
1 2 3 4 5
3. Unforgiveness can influence decisions that affect important areas of a person's life.
1 2 3 4 5
4. The way a person speaks about an offender can reveal feelings that have not been acknowledged.
1 2 3 4 5
5. A person may deny unforgiveness even when his or her responses towards the offender suggest otherwise.
1 2 3 4 5
6. The effects of unforgiveness can extend beyond a person's relationship with the offender.
1 2 3 4 5
7. Acknowledging unforgiveness is an important step towards dealing with it.
1 2 3 4 5
Your Reflection Score
Add your responses to the seven statements.
Your Score: ______ / 35
Understanding Your Score
7–13 — Low Level of Agreement
Review the conclusions you rated lowest and consider the reasons for your responses.
14–20 — Some Agreement
Review the conclusions on which you were uncertain or disagreed and consider what influenced your ratings.
21–27 — Considerable Agreement
Identify the conclusions that stood out most strongly and consider their relevance to your own experiences and observations.
28–35 — Strong Agreement
Consider which conclusions have the greatest relevance to your own experiences and observations and why.
Your score reflects your level of agreement with the conclusions presented. It is not a measure of whether your reflections are right or wrong.
Part C: Relating Birungi's Story to Your Own Experience
1. Which aspect of Birungi's response to Lutalo, if any, reminded you of the way you have responded to an offender? Why?
2. Have you ever believed that you had moved beyond an offence only to discover, through a later encounter or circumstance, that it was still influencing your response?
☐ Yes
☐ No
☐ I am not sure
If yes, what happened that made you realise that the offence was still influencing your response?
3. Have you ever considered avoiding a person, place or situation primarily because it would bring you into contact with an offender?
☐ Yes
☐ No
☐ I am not sure
If yes, how did this affect your decisions?
4. Have your words or reactions towards an offender ever revealed feelings that you had not fully acknowledged?
☐ Yes
☐ No
☐ I am not sure
If yes, what feelings did your words or reactions reveal?
Part D: Recognising Similar Experiences in Your Space
1. Have you observed someone whose response to a past offence became particularly evident when either the offender reappeared or circumstances brought the offence back to the person's attention?
☐ Yes
☐ No
☐ I am not sure
If yes, how did the person express his or her response?
2. Have you observed someone denying unforgiveness while his or her words or behaviour towards the offender suggested otherwise?
☐ Yes
☐ No
☐ I am not sure
If yes, what words or behaviour suggested that the person had not forgiven the offender?
3. What has Birungi's story taught you about recognising possible signs of unforgiveness in people in your space?
Before You Move On
1. What is the most important lesson you have drawn from Birungi's story? Why?
2. What aspect of your own response to offenders would you like to examine more closely as you continue through the Guide?