01.07.01.1 Prelude

Things that Make It Difficult for Others to Forgive You...

The sound of crickets started to echo from the nearby savannah bushes, signalling that the evening was just about to set in.  Time had whizzed by so fast.  We had covered a lot since our arrival at Makumbusho Park, but there was still one thing that Birungi needed to know.  “Now that you appreciate how vital it is to forgive offenders, you must make it easy for others to forgive you”, I asserted to my friend; as we shifted from the lawn to a raffia thatched umbrella; where a cup of tea and pan-fried banana pancakes were waiting.  “Contemplate for a bit.  If Lutalo had tried to make it easy for you to forgive him, wouldn’t this have helped?”  I asked.  “Joy, had the man created a conducive environment, not only would I have found it easier to forgive him; but I would have healed faster” she admitted.  

Someone may be more than ready to forgive you, but your behaviour could be an impediment, thereby ruining valuable relationships; which, by the way, do not come cheap.  Needless to say, being a person who is easily pardonable will take you places since people will find you easy to relate to.  Consequently, you must drop all mannerisms that would work against your being easily forgiven by those you upset.  Remember, many offences are interpersonal; whereby each party may have contributed to harming or breaking a relationship.  

So, what could make it difficult for others to forgive you?