01.06.03 The 1st Principle on How to Forgive

1. Your Heart is at the Core of ‘Forgiveness’

“Rungi, in order to succeed in forgiving Lutalo, you must condition your heart since that is where forgiveness begins, thrives and also flows from”, I advised.  “How on earth does one do that, Joy”? she quizzed curiously, as though I had just sent her on ‘Mission Impossible!’  

But despite Birungi’s masked reservations, attuning one’s heart to forgive offenders is possible; as Katalina attests.  You would recall how her boss Nathani had frustrated the young woman’s fully-sponsored training aspirations, to the point that she failed to complete her fully-sponsored studies.  “In no time, I found myself detesting Nathani greatly, yet I knew that such feelings would not favour my physical, mental and spiritual health”, Katalina confesses.  She goes ahead to share how she dealt with the bitterness that had started germinating in her heart.  “I had read that one could tune her mind through confessing words…, and that utterances could either ‘make or break’ things”, she reveals, with unmistakable seriousness.  “That was when I embarked on talking to myself that I had forgiven Nathani; and to confess that over and over again.  As time went by, I was amazed to find that the bitterness had dissolved, to the point that, these days, I do not avoid him anymore!”, she discloses.  “This may sound far-fetched, but it works!” she emphatically concludes.

Apparently, unrealistic though it may sound to some; consistent, fervent and genuine confessions can have immense impact; not only in you, but also on your environment.  Confession drives truths deep into the walls of one’s heart, positioning a person to genuinely demonstrate forgiveness outwardly.  Indeed, when you say something long enough, it becomes a reality.