01.04.T03-AP — Action Planning Worksheet: The Costs of Unforgiveness

Reducing the Cost of Unforgiveness in Your Life

Use this worksheet to identify a cost of unforgiveness that requires your attention and determine what you can begin doing about it.

1. As you went through the Reflection and Self-Assessment, which cost of unforgiveness did you recognise most clearly in your own life?

2. Which offence or offender is most closely associated with that cost?

You do not need to identify the person by name.

3. How has that cost affected your life?

4. What, if anything, have you already lost, neglected or placed at risk as a result of that offence and your response to it?

5. Is there anything important in your life that could be adversely affected if the situation remains unresolved?

☐ Yes
☐ No
☐ I am not sure

If yes, what is it and how could it be affected?

6. Who else, if anyone, has been affected by your response to that offence? How?

7. Is there an important decision that you have made, postponed or are considering because of that offence or offender?

☐ Yes
☐ No
☐ I am not sure

If yes, what is the decision?

8. Does that decision need to be reconsidered? Why?

9. Is there a goal, relationship, responsibility or opportunity that you have neglected or considered abandoning because of that offence or offender?

☐ Yes
☐ No
☐ I am not sure

If yes, what is it?

10. Which area of your life would you particularly like to protect from further consequences associated with that offence?

11. Which aspect of your response to that offence would you most like to change?

12. What specific action can you take to begin making that change?

13. When will you take that action?

14. What could make it difficult for you to take that action?

15. What will you do if that difficulty arises?

16. What change would indicate that the cost you identified is beginning to reduce?

Your Commitment

The cost of unforgiveness I will address is:

The area of my life that I want to protect from further consequences associated with that offence is:

The action I will take is:

I will take that action by:

I will know that I am making progress when: