01.09.EG.T03-AP — Action Planning: My Forgiveness Journey Forward

Purpose

This tool helps you convert the lessons and self-discoveries from the whole Guide into a practical plan for maintaining emotional freedom, forgiving future offences and becoming easier for other people to forgive.

Part A: Closing What Still Needs to Be Closed

1. Which unresolved offence now requires your most deliberate attention?

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2. What symptom tells you that the offence is not yet fully closed?

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3. What cost will continue if you leave it unresolved?

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4. What decision about forgiveness are you prepared to make now?

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Part B: Protecting My Heart Going Forward

5. Which expectation of other people will you manage differently?

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6. Which emotional trigger will you monitor more carefully?

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7. What will you do when you notice yourself replaying an offence or inventing motives?

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8. What rule will govern messages, conversations and decisions when you are angry?

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9. Who will you talk to when you need wise, discreet counsel?

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10. What practice will help you remain empathic without excusing wrong conduct?

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Part C: My Forgiveness Practice

11. What will you do when an offender does not apologise?

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12. How will you remind yourself that forgiving does not require forgetting a person’s known weaknesses?

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13. What will you do to prevent a remembered offence from becoming a renewed offence in your mind?

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14. How will you demonstrate forgiveness through respect, kindness, patience or goodwill?

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15. What boundary will you maintain where physical closeness would be unwise or unsafe?

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16. What will guide your decision about whether and how to pursue reconciliation?

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Part D: When I Am the Offender

17. What will you change about the way you apologise?

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18. What defensive or excuse-making habit will you stop?

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19. What will you do when someone tells you that your behaviour caused hurt?

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20. How will you ensure that an apology is followed by changed behaviour?

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21. What will you do when another person is not immediately ready to forgive you?

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Part E: Protecting My Purpose and Relationships

22. Which goal or vision will you refuse to abandon because of an offender?

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23. Which relationship will you protect from the spill-over effects of bitterness?

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24. What unhealthy coping behaviour, retaliation or competition will you avoid?

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25. How will you practise forgiving yourself when you make mistakes that cannot be reversed?

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Part F: Accountability and Review

26. Who can support, encourage and hold you accountable as you practise forgiveness?

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27. What three signs will show that you are maintaining emotional freedom?

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28. When will you review this action plan?

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29. Write your personal commitment for the journey ahead: “Going forward, when I am offended, I will…”

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