01.02.T03-AP — Action Planning: Breaking the Hold of Unforgiveness
01.02.T03-AP — Action Planning: Breaking the Hold of Unforgiveness
Purpose
This tool helps you convert the lessons from Birungi’s early experience into practical steps for recognising and interrupting the hold that an offence may have over your life.
Part A: Naming What I Need to Address
1. Which offence or offender presently has the greatest ability to disturb your peace?
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2. What specific thoughts, words or reactions show that the experience still affects you?
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3. What part of your life is most at risk if the bitterness continues unchecked?
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Part B: Interrupting the Pattern
4. What will you do when the offender’s name, presence or memory triggers strong emotions?
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5. What will you stop saying or repeatedly telling yourself about the offence?
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6. What healthy action can replace the urge to escape, retaliate or brood?
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7. Who can give you wise and discreet counsel without inflaming your bitterness?
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Part C: Protecting My Wellbeing
8. What practical step will you take to prevent the offence from disrupting your work, relationships or daily responsibilities?
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9. What warning signs will tell you that your emotional response is becoming unhealthy?
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10. What will you do when you notice those warning signs?
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Part D: My Commitment
11. Complete this statement: I will no longer allow __________ to control __________ in my life.
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12. What first action will you take within the next seven days?
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13. How will you know that the offender is beginning to lose the emotional hold that the person once had over you?
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