01.03.T03-AP — Action Planning: Addressing My Symptoms of Unforgiveness

Purpose

This tool helps you develop practical actions for responding to the specific symptoms of unforgiveness that you have identified in yourself.

Part A: My Priority Symptoms

1. Which symptom of unforgiveness will you address first?

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2. What normally triggers that symptom?

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3. What has that symptom already cost you emotionally or relationally?

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Part B: Replacing the Symptom

4. If avoidance is a problem, what safe and appropriate behaviour will replace unnecessary avoidance?

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5. If recurrent emotional pain is a problem, what will you do when an old memory is triggered?

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6. If re-narrating offences is a problem, what boundary will you set on repeatedly discussing or mentally replaying the wrongdoing?

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7. If publicising wrongdoing or desiring revenge is a problem, what will you do instead when you hear negative news about the offender?

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8. If uncontrolled anger is a problem, what will you do before responding to the offender?

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9. If brooding is a problem, what constructive activity or thought pattern will interrupt prolonged dwelling on the offence?

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Part C: Monitoring My Progress

10. What behaviour will show that the symptom is weakening?

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11. Who can help you recognise the symptom when you fail to notice it yourself?

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12. When will you review your progress?

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13. What will emotional freedom from this symptom look like in practical terms?

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