01.09.EG.T01-PRR — End-of-Guide Reflection: My Growth in Forgiveness and Emotional Freedom
01.09.EG.T01-PRR — End-of-Guide Reflection: My Growth in Forgiveness and Emotional Freedom
Purpose
This tool helps you look back across the whole Guide, compare your present understanding with your starting point and identify the lessons that have changed the way you understand offences, offenders, forgiveness and your own responsibility in relationships.
Part A: Looking Back at My Starting Point
1. How has your understanding of forgiveness changed since you completed the Pre-Reading Reflection?
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2. Which belief about forgiveness did the Guide challenge most strongly?
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3. Which story or character made you recognise something about your own response to hurt that you had not previously seen?
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4. Which symptom of unforgiveness are you now more able to recognise in yourself?
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5. Which cost of unforgiveness now appears more serious to you than it did before reading the Guide?
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Part B: What I Learnt from Birungi’s Journey
6. What can you learn from the contrast between the haggard Birungi at the beginning and the restored Birungi after she decided to forgive Lutalo?
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7. What was the most important turning point in Birungi’s journey from denying bitterness to deciding that “the ball is in my court”?
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8. What does Birungi’s restored inner glow at the end of the book mean to you personally?
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9. In what way has your own understanding of emotional freedom changed through following Birungi’s story?
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Part C: What I Learnt about Preventing and Practising Forgiveness
10. Which practice for immunising the heart from bitterness will make the greatest difference in your life?
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11. Which principle from How to Forgive has most changed the way you intend to deal with an offender?
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12. What have you learnt about the difference between forgiving, forgetting, denial and reconciliation?
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13. What have you learnt about protecting yourself wisely without continuing to carry bitterness?
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Part D: What I Learnt about Being the Offender
14. Which lesson from It Takes Two to Tango has made you reconsider your own behaviour after hurting someone?
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15. What do you now understand about the role of apology, changed behaviour and empathy in making it easier for another person to forgive you?
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16. Which behaviour of your own do you most want to change so that you do not become another person’s “Lutalo”?
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Part E: My Transformation
17. What is the most significant change that has taken place in your thinking while reading this Guide?
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18. What unresolved offence are you now more prepared to address?
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19. What relationship could benefit most from what you have learnt?
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20. Complete this statement: The “Unforgiveness Beast” in my life loses its power when I __________.
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