01.05.T01-RS — Reflection Scorecard: Immunising My Heart from Bitterness and Unforgiveness
01.05.T01-RS — Reflection Scorecard: Immunising My Heart from Bitterness and Unforgiveness
Purpose
This tool helps you reflect on the chapter’s preventive practices and on the attitudes, expectations, relationships and emotional habits that can either protect the heart or make bitterness easier to develop.
Part A: Expectations, Fear and Comparison
1. What did Lameka and Samali’s expectation that Kasole should lend them a car teach about turning an unspoken expectation into resentment?
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2. How did Edisa’s unresolved experience with Timosewo influence the warnings she gave Malaika about men?
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3. What did Mayengo and his colleagues lose by treating Mukiibi as though he were another Baliwo before giving him a fair chance?
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4. Why does remembering that we ourselves are products of forgiveness make a judgemental attitude towards offenders harder to justify?
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Part B: Company, Self-Knowledge and Emotional Management
5. How did Seranda’s friends make forgiving more difficult even though she naturally had a compassionate disposition?
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6. What qualities should a trustworthy confidant have when you are hurt and vulnerable?
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7. What does Nassimbwa’s revolving list of disliked friends reveal about the importance of understanding one’s own personality and triggers?
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8. How could Fezile have benefited from noticing her feelings before using food to escape frustrations at work?
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9. What can be learnt from Kusanira maintaining his standard of greeting Sulemani despite the subordinate’s rude behaviour?
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10. How did Nantume’s assumptions and repeated mental analysis enlarge relatively small offences?
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Part C: Proportion, Consequences and Empathy
11. What does Lesedi’s reaction to the missing ice cream teach about deciding what deserves attention and what should be ignored?
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12. What does Furaha’s midnight reaction to gossip teach about the wisdom of sleeping over an offence before responding?
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13. How did Danieli’s negativity allow one offence to affect his wife, children and the atmosphere of his home?
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14. What would have changed for Lusi if she had considered that her housemaids could break crockery accidentally just as she and her children sometimes did?
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Part D: Personal Reflection
15. Which preventive practice in this chapter would have protected you from a past episode of bitterness?
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16. Which practice requires the greatest deliberate attention in your life now?
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17. What does Birungi’s conclusion that unforgiveness could have been prevented challenge you to change before the next offence occurs?
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