01.01.BG.T02-SA — Baseline Self-Assessment: My Readiness to Forgive
01.01.BG.T02-SA — Baseline Self-Assessment: My Readiness to Forgive
Purpose
This tool helps you assess your present tendencies before reading the Guide. Rate yourself honestly. The purpose is not to obtain a perfect score, but to identify patterns that may make forgiveness easier or more difficult for you.
Scoring: Consistently = 4 Often = 3 Sometimes = 2 Rarely = 1
Part A: Recognising Unforgiveness
1. I can recognise when anger, resentment or bitterness towards a person is still active in me.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
2. I can admit that I have not forgiven someone instead of insisting that I am fine when painful feelings remain.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
3. I can think about a person who hurt me without repeatedly re-living the emotional pain.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
4. I avoid repeatedly narrating an offender’s wrongdoing to myself or to other people.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
5. I resist the desire to see an offender punished, embarrassed or brought down.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
Part B: Protecting My Emotional Freedom
6. I refuse to allow an offender to control my happiness long after the offence occurred.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
7. I avoid making major decisions while anger, hurt or bitterness is driving my thinking.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
8. I protect my important relationships from being repeatedly burdened by my complaints about offenders.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
9. I remain focused on my goals and responsibilities even after I have been badly hurt.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
10. I can forgive myself for mistakes and failures rather than repeatedly condemning myself.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
Part C: How I Respond When Offended
11. I manage my thoughts before they magnify an offence.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
12. I control what I say, write or send when I am emotionally charged.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
13. I can separate an offender from the offence instead of defining the whole person by one wrongdoing.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
14. I can show empathy by considering what may have influenced another person’s behaviour.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
15. I can forgive without assuming that forgiveness requires me to forget risks or expose myself to further harm.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
Part D: When I Need Forgiveness
16. I apologise clearly when I have hurt someone.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
17. I avoid excuses and defensiveness when someone points out that I have caused hurt.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
18. I make a deliberate effort not to repeat conduct that has already hurt another person.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
19. I respond constructively when another person offers an olive branch after conflict.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
20. I consider the other person’s feelings instead of expecting forgiveness while ignoring my own contribution to the conflict.
☐ Consistently
☐ Often
☐ Sometimes
☐ Rarely
________________________________________________________________________________
Total Score: __________ / 80
Score Interpretation
20–34: The score suggests that readiness to forgive requires substantial attention. Review the lowest-rated statements and identify the attitudes or habits that need deliberate change.
35–49: The score suggests developing strength in readiness to forgive, but important inconsistencies remain. Give priority to the lower-rated responses.
50–64: The score suggests generally healthy readiness to forgive. Preserve the stronger patterns while strengthening the responses that are less consistent.
65–80: The score suggests strong and consistent readiness to forgive. Continue practising these qualities while remaining honest about any lower-rated response.
Part E: My Baseline Priorities
21. Which three statements above describe your strongest tendencies at present?
________________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________________
22. Which three statements reveal weaknesses that could make forgiveness difficult for you?
________________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________________
23. What is the most important change you hope to see when you repeat a similar self-assessment after completing the Guide?
________________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________________
