01.09.EG.T02-SA — End-of-Guide Self-Assessment: My Forgiveness and Emotional Freedom
01.09.EG.T02-SA — End-of-Guide Self-Assessment: My Forgiveness and Emotional Freedom
Purpose
This tool helps you assess your present attitudes and practices after completing the Guide and compare them with the tendencies you identified at the beginning.
Scoring: Consistently = 4 Often = 3 Sometimes = 2 Rarely = 1
Part A: Recognising Unforgiveness
1. I can recognise avoidance, recurrent pain, re-narration, revenge, uncontrolled anger and brooding as possible symptoms of unresolved unforgiveness.
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2. I am willing to admit when bitterness remains instead of hiding behind denial.
☐ Consistently
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3. I can identify when an offender has begun to occupy too much of my thinking.
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☐ Often
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Part B: Protecting My Heart
4. I manage expectations so that disappointment does not automatically become bitterness.
☐ Consistently
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5. I avoid projecting the behaviour of one offender onto another person.
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6. I choose confidants who give wise counsel rather than inflame resentment.
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7. I understand my emotional triggers and monitor my feelings.
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8. I control my thoughts, words and decisions when emotionally charged.
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9. I can decide what deserves attention and what is wiser to ignore.
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10. I practise empathy when judging an offender’s behaviour.
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Part C: Practising Forgiveness
11. I can decide to forgive without waiting for an apology.
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12. I can forgive without confusing forgiveness with forgetting known risks.
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13. I can acknowledge hurt honestly without living in denial.
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14. I avoid keeping a mental record of offences to use later.
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15. I can wish an offender well rather than enjoying the person’s downfall.
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16. I can separate the offender from the offence and recognise the person’s humanity and positive qualities.
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17. I can approach reconciliation with both love and wisdom, including appropriate boundaries where necessary.
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Part D: When I Am the Offender
18. I apologise clearly and sincerely.
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☐ Rarely
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19. I avoid anger, excuses and defensiveness when confronted about hurt I caused.
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20. I make a deliberate effort not to repeat behaviour for which I have apologised.
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21. I receive another person’s olive branch constructively.
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☐ Rarely
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22. I consider the other person’s feelings rather than expecting forgiveness on my own terms.
☐ Consistently
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Total Score: __________ / 88
Score Interpretation
22–37: The score suggests that forgiveness and emotional freedom requires substantial attention. Review the lowest-rated statements and identify the attitudes or habits that need deliberate change.
38–54: The score suggests developing strength in forgiveness and emotional freedom, but important inconsistencies remain. Give priority to the lower-rated responses.
55–71: The score suggests generally healthy forgiveness and emotional freedom. Preserve the stronger patterns while strengthening the responses that are less consistent.
72–88: The score suggests strong and consistent forgiveness and emotional freedom. Continue practising these qualities while remaining honest about any lower-rated response.
Part E: Comparing My Growth
23. Which three responses show your greatest growth since the Baseline Self-Assessment?
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24. Which three responses still require deliberate attention?
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25. What evidence in your daily behaviour will demonstrate that the growth is real?
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26. What is your present assessment of your emotional freedom from the offence that concerned you most at the beginning of the Guide?
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