Re-narrating the History of Offenders
The tendency to re-narrate the wrong-doings of an offender could signify that you have never forgiven that person. A case in point was that of Laheri, who had a habit of replaying her husband’s offences afresh each time he erred. And, even when hubby would be genuinely apologetic; Laheri was never willing to hear the words ‘I am sorry’. Rather she would resort to throwing ruthless phrases like: “but you did that last year”; “you keep doing that again and again”; “I knew you would repeat that…” And, the scolding could go on for hours. Such mannerisms almost sent her marriage down the drain.
Does this ring a bell? Such retorts can never improve any situation, for when the dust settles, you will always find yourself back at the same spot, feeling spent, angry and frustrated. Rather than bringing relief, re-narrating history only makes things worse.